“You’ll just keep crashing if you never take your eyes off the review mirror.”
~ Leo Christopher
It’s incredible how much we tend to dwell on the past, it’s ok to reminisce every now and then, but to allow the past to dictate your present and future, does not seem very constructive.
The past is simply the series of events that molded you into who you have become, but if those events molded you in undesirable ways, then my friend, it’s up to you to ‘unmold’ yourself.
This notion is a very important one, most people surrender to the past and take no responsibility in the present to change the consequences of what has already been, but even if the past can’t be changed, how it has affected us is something we must control and change, if necessary.
Any event, no matter how traumatic, (within reason), has the potential to make us better or worse. We can allow things to either make us bitter, resentful, revengeful and hard, or we can choose to become stronger, wiser, more resilient and empathetic. The choice is yours.
If you choose to allow things to make you bitter and resentful, you must understand that you are only making your life worse. If you are ok with making your life less happy and enjoyable, then please go ahead and be bitter, angry, sorry for yourself and revengeful, just know nobody is going to want to be around you.
It is much wiser to process the pain, understand that it’s trying to teach you something, talk about it, cry it out, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, decide you will be stronger from it, learn the lesson, feel stronger, know you are wiser, and then focus all your strength on getting better, not on anyone else paying for what may have happened; the universe will take care of that.
So keep your eyes on the road ahead and be grateful that you will not fall into the same hole because now you know better. Never allow things to make you worse, life is a chance for us to evolve, not devolve.
Always onwards and upwards my friends! 💪🏻